I see she calls these needs – I have always understood her points as coping strategies.
Moving Toward People
- 1. The need for affection and approval; pleasing others and being liked by them.
- 2. The need for a partner; one whom they can love and who will solve all problems.
Moving Against People
- 3. The need for power; the ability to bend wills and achieve control over others—while most persons seek strength, the neurotic may be desperate for it.
- 4. The need to exploit others; to get the better of them. To become manipulative, fostering the belief that people are there simply to be used.
- 5. The need for social recognition; prestige and limelight.
- 6. The need for personal admiration; for both inner and outer qualities—to be valued.
- 7. The need for personal achievement; though virtually all persons wish to make achievements, as with No. 3, the neurotic may be desperate for achievement.
Moving Away from People
- 8. The need for self sufficiency and independence; while most desire some autonomy, the neurotic may simply wish to discard other individuals entirely.
- 9. The need for perfection; while many are driven to perfect their lives in the form of well being, the neurotic may display a fear of being slightly flawed.
- 10. Lastly, the need to restrict life practices to within narrow borders; to live as inconspicuous a life as possible.