Comments for Psyberspace

Comment on The Soft Edge by Brian

Brian — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 05:29:48 +0000

I note that this is over four years old. Their home page likewise. I wonder if they are still in existence?

Comment on Caldwell B. Esselstyn, Jr., MD Chatpter One Eating to Live by ganar dinero

ganar dinero — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 13:54:19 +0000

ganar dinero…

[...]Caldwell B. Esselstyn, Jr., MD Chatpter One Eating to Live › Psyberspace[...]…

Comment on Imago Audio by Walter

Walter — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 21:43:32 +0000

Thanks Dan, good summary

Comment on Imago Audio by Dan Randow

Dan Randow — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 20:46:34 +0000

A great summary of Imago. The sharpening, if I notice it all all, seems more to do with what is left out. Harville and Helen seem to be focusing more on the conscious communication dialogue. Other dialogues or techniques are not mentioned. The only other techniques mentioned are appreciations and stopping negative comments.

They seem to say that if a safe connection is established, pretty much everything else takes care of itself. Dialogue is a meditative, a spiritual practice. In quieting the self to be more open to the other, the self emerges, entering the relational space — as does the self of the other.

They mention “stretching into the needs system” of the other but are not specific about that. The intention is what matters. How you know what that is, they seem to trust, emerges in dialogues. “Conflict is change trying to happen”, they say.

As I appreciate their message, I am noticing myself warm up to faith in connection — and my own capacity to be open to meeting the needs of the other. It is not easy. It can be stormy in that relational space. Helen and Harville’s faith in this is encouraging.

One thing I like about Harville and Helen is that I find it easy not to idolise them. I thought their demonstration of a dialogue was clunky. Their claims about how wonderful their relationship is seemed shrill. Some of their assertions about how dialogues work seemed simplistic or exaggerated. I found their stories about “co-operative problem-solving” unconvincing.

At the same time, I would like to find them more credible. Sue Johnson, in her book “Hold Me Tight” claims to survey the recent explosion of research about couples but neither Hendrix nor Hunt appear in her references. Why is that?

For all this, their central message is clear and inspiring. Their plan to transform society through safe conversations is a wonderful one.

They do mention that Sue Johnson joined but then left their coalition to achieve this. Harville asserts that she will rejoin. But this smells incomplete.

I filter this through my own projections about warring parents and my own struggle with attachment. Although I come out of their talk with renewed encouragement about the possibility and power of safe connection, I also leave wanting a little more connection *with* *them*.

Comment on Feelings & Needs – Table by John Gottman – Science of Trust › Psyberspace

John Gottman – Science of Trust › Psyberspace — Sat, 26 Nov 2011 22:18:10 +0000

[...] good, but I prefer “want” there rather than need, following Marshall Rosenberg (see my post) Regrettable incidents in interaction are simply par for the course. The goal is to be able to heal [...]

Comment on Caldwell B. Esselstyn, Jr., MD Chatpter One Eating to Live by the pulse heart

the pulse heart — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 11:49:34 +0000

the pulse heart…

[...]Caldwell B. Esselstyn, Jr., MD Chatpter One Eating to Live › Psyberspace[...]…

Comment on Jesus the man, Jobs the man by Josh

Josh — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 16:54:40 +0000

Jobs the myth is so strong that now poor Englebart doesn’t even get the credit for inventing the mouse!
I think the essense of the question here is what will the agent of change be toward a more just society. Daisey – who is hilarious and thoughtful – is exposing some of the reality behind the glossy seemingly seamless Apple branding. Something that we all have an idea of – but which is relagated to an obligatory consumer guilt about workers committing suicide in China.
I am still with Marx – the agent of change will be the workers – quite possibly those at Foxcomm. There will not be a slow improvement of conditions via consumer pressure – it is too hard to organize. There will be no magic awakening due to the new processes made avaiilable on the internet – though I am sure that they will be used and new ones created.
The international working class has more chance than ever now to untie and there are more workers than ever before!

Comment on TEDxTelAviv – Hedy Schleifer – The Power of Connection by Dan Randow

Dan Randow — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 09:01:14 +0000

A lovely simple explanation of the process and power of entering the world of another. Reminds me that the same process is at work between nations (not at the RWC), between cultures within our nation, within couples, with grandparent and grandchild.

Comment on New Urbanism by Monarch at Ridge Hill

Monarch at Ridge Hill — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 18:19:12 +0000

The transition to a New Urbanism focus, though slow, is something we are really happy to see. It is important that we keep everyone informed of its benefits and the different aspects associated with NU. Decreasing our dependence on automobiles and increasing a sense of community is necessary.

Comment on Snow at Mt Lyford by Walter

Walter — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 06:40:05 +0000

Thanks Robert. I’m not sure about your questions. Psyberspace is different, but then it is always different for different people. How many of us then or now had the depth experience of our mailing lists at that time? DreamGroups? I loved having those experiences, but could not find that energy in me today.

My psychological energy is in psychodrama. I’m a trainer and find that very rewarding. I was struggling with my relationships in that community at the time and thus Psyberspace afforded a haven. I’m more robust and would handel the vicissitudes one way or another.

Blogging here is consistent for me, solitary mostly. A sort of long term research for a book I’ll never write. And a Journal as this photo indicates. I’m also quietly active in Brainstorms.