Harville Hendrix 3 questions

Posted on March 22, 2011 by Walter

I just read Maya’s three questions she asks before commencing relationship therapy.

How do they compare with Harville Hendrix’s ones we just heard in the Auckland workshop?

1. What do you want in this relationship when you finish with me?

2. What have you done to prevent this from happening? (You, not the other partner)

3. What has to be taken out? What has to be put in? What will you take out, put in?

If you have the power to make it this bad, you have the power to make it good.

This couple could be creative and take self responsibility”

Just compared them and you can see who taught her!!

Maya’s three questions : http://psyberspace.walterlogeman.com/2009/three-relationship-questions/

Reciprocal influence

Posted on February 18, 2010 by Walter

Stumbled on this scrap: Jung wrote that

For two personalities to meet is like two different chemical substances: if there is any combination at all, both are transformed. In any effective psychological treatment the doctor is bound to influence the patient; but this influence can only take place if the patient has a reciprocal influence on the doctor. You can exert no influence if you are not susceptible to influence.

(C.G. Jung, CW, vol. 16, para. 163)

This is close to describing Moreno’s Tele with the emphasis on reciprocity, ie a flow both ways.

A generally semantic journey

Posted on November 29, 2009 by Walter

I have enjoyed some of the writing and audio from Al Turtle a relationship therapist. I get an RSS feed of his updates and today found a link to his favourite books. Great idea!

I found a ebook of A. E. Van Vogt’s The World of Null-A, non-Aristotelian logic in SF form. I see that this is not a one-off in Al’s list! He is into General Semantics – intrigued I went off on a search trail.

Continue reading →

Relationships

Posted on April 16, 2009 by Walter

Three items from my notes from the Maya Kollman workshop:

You deny it, you marry it, you try to kill it.

We externalise our internal split, so we can see it and resolve it.

If I think I know you I have killed you.

Three relationship questions

Posted on April 12, 2009 by Walter

Three questions to ask the couple to work on before they come to the first session:

What would the relationship look like if it were working well?
What are doing right now to prevent that?
What do you imagine you could do differently?

(From the supervision workshop with Maya Kollman)

Psychotherapist.co.nz

Posted on September 2, 2000 by Walter

Online Psychotherapy with Walter Logeman

This will soon not be here but have a new URL

Much later: Friday, 15 January, 2010

Of course it is here, and this will remain the main page: http://www.psybernet.co.nz

I must have thought I’d get that URL, but then couldn’t! Looks like no-one is really using it. I’d still like it!

Though my Walter Logeman site is useful too.

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