Sometimes couples aren’t sure whether they are ready to work on their relationship or not. When this happens it isn’t appropriate to do traditional couples therapy until both partners buy in to the process of therapy. Rachel Zamore gives us a closer look at how to work with these mixed agenda couples using Discernment Counseling.
Discernment counselling is a crucial perspective on couple therapy. If a couple or one partner is ambivalent – it is so important not to leap into working on the relationship.
In my work each partner gets a summer of the individual session I had with the other. Those summaries are reframed without blame and they facilitate a process of clarity.
Will they:
Agree to couple therapy for 6 months?
Separare?
Continue with the status quo?