Tammy Nelson on recovering from affairs
This is the topic of her new book, not yet out? There is a wealth of info here. It is worth listening to a couple of times and making notes, a few of mine follow:
Good news!
TAKING BACK THE HEART: Sam Crofskey, of C1 Espresso, and Jeremy Jon Stewart, of Alice in Videoland, will be teaming up in the undamaged Alice building.
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First it was a trickle, then a flood. A few years ago, sales of e=
-books =E2=80=93 electronic versions of books that can be downloaded and rea=
d on a computer or handheld device =E2=80=93 were negligible.
These are glad tidings for online retailers. But might good=
old-fashioned high-street bookshops, locked into their traditional bricks a=
nd mortar, be swept away by this new tide?
Not if the book=
shops themselves have anything to do with it. It’s true that they would stru=
ggle to sell e-books by themselves, because of the prohibitive cost of apply=
ing the complex data protection technology needed to stop e-books being copi=
ed repeatedly.
But help is at hand across the Tasman. Aust=
ralian firm Read Cloud has developed a service that will allow people to buy=
e-books from independent bookstores and store them online in a “cloud” so t=
hat they can be read at any time. Title Page, a site created by Australian p=
ublishers, will offer a similar service.
Lincoln Gould, th=
e head of Booksellers New Zealand, says both services should be available so=
on after Christmas, although progress has been “a bit slower than everybody h=
oped”.
Discussions are also under way to provide independe=
nts with an e-book reader device to sell to customers, as an alternative to p=
roducts like the Kindle, which can only read Amazon’s e-books. “Once a Kindl=
e is in somebody’s hands, we have lost that customer,” says Tim Blackmore of=
Nelson store Page and Blackmore.
David Cameron, the owner=
of Christchurch’s Scorpio Books, says independents “do see” the need to emb=
race e-books, although the technology will not change his business “as quick=
ly as some of the technology pundits have predicted”.
Alth=
ough e-books sales here could hit NZ$35 million by 2014, according to an Aus=
tralian report earlier this year, Gould says “anecdotally, it’s early days”.=
But this Christmas may see e-book readers like the Kindle become popular pr=
esents, “so in 2012 you will start to see the real impact of e-books on the m=
arket”.
Cameron hopes to have his website ready to handle e=
-books early in the new year. But it’s not clear that customers will visit a=
bookshop’s website when they can buy from an online retailer =E2=80=93 and t=
he tide may be turning in the latter’s favour.
Around $100=
,000 of state money and book licensing fees has been spent making digital co=
pies of existing print titles for the soon-to-launch Great New Zealand E-Boo=
ks website. But as it stands, site visitors who want to buy the books will b=
e directed either to Japanese-owned online store Kobo, or to New Zealand-bas=
ed online retailers Wheelers and =E2=80=93 technical issues permitting =E2=80=
=93 Fishpond.
What about the bookshops? “That’s the millio=
n-dollar question,” says Paula Browning of Copyright Licensing Ltd, which is=
helping run the project. She is in talks with Booksellers New Zealand, whic=
h is thinking about “how that might work”. For his part, Gould says bookshop=
s will be involved, although he is not yet sure of the detail: “A lot of the=
se things are up in the air.”
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Scorpio’s David Cameron says it “wouldn’t go down very well”=
if bookshops missed out on Great New Zealand E-Books sales. But he is much m=
ore excited about design innovations =E2=80=93 such as textured and 3-D book=
covers =E2=80=93 that turn hardback books into desirable objects, further d=
istinguishing them from their electronic imitators.
And wh=
en e-books may be selling at $13 to $14, there is not much margin in it, esp=
ecially once Read Cloud or Title Page take their cut. Selling e-books is, in=
Tim Blackmore’s words, mostly about “servicing the local community” that wa=
nts to support bookshops. “At the moment,” he says, “we have immensely loyal=
customers. That may change. It will certainly change if we can’t come up wi=
th a solution.”
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Facilitating and Participating in Online Groups
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Walter
Update
Many of the pix in the blog are not showing up. This is because I’ve removed Zenphoto – I might put it back or I might use some other photo storage. I like having them on my server, they are all still there, but maybe Flickr will do a better job… Flickr, Google Facebook or Apple? Why I’m looking to these sites I that I don’t need to maintain them! Fight off hackers?
Gottman – Imago Audio
Imago Gottman in dialogue. This Audio begins with the Gottmans explaining their methods, it is followed by a discussion with all four of them.
I’m interested mainly in the relationship between the two modalities, on the way I noted Gottman’s research on emotions and children. He mentions that towards the end of the Gottman talk before the discussion.
I found the book on children:
RAISING AN EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT CHILD: THE HEART OF PARENTING BOOK
Its pretty basic, details follow, but it was nicely put in the audio, so worth a listen.
Repairing the core scene
One fight, one repair
I’ve heard it said that couples only have one fight and they have it for about forty years. Core conflict is another term for it, not sure who first made these observations but they ring true. Its an art to spot what is at the core of persistent difficulties in a relationship. Couples may already have a name for it. Transactional Analysis is another way, where we can see “parent, child, adult ego states†in the transactions. The Karpman triangle also has its roots in TA. Roles, as used in psychodrama is a good way to describe the way people interact. Harville Hendrix and Helen describe one syndrome as the hailstorm and the turtle. That is a role description of complementary roles.
The corollary of the one core scene is that it call for one core repair. Dialogues are not about good communication or a way of life. It is a tool to repair a role system gone wrong.
REAMDE
Neal Stephenson
REAMDE on kindle
I’m into the first few chapters and hooked!
Love the way I can download a sample and then decide if I want to read it.
Got it.
Is this on Facebook?
Testing where my blog posts go.
What’s the Difference?
Groups are great for organizing on a personal level and for smaller scale interaction around a cause. Pages are better for brands, businesses, bands, movies, or celebrities who want to interact with their fans or customers without having them connected to a personal account, and have a need to exceed Facebook’s 5,000 friend cap.