Karen Horney – Wikipedia – 10 needs

I see she calls these needs – I have always understood her points as coping strategies.

Hmmm…

Karen Horney – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia:

Moving Toward People

  • 1. The need for affection and approval; pleasing others and being liked by them.
  • 2. The need for a partner; one whom they can love and who will solve all problems.

Moving Against People

  • 3. The need for power; the ability to bend wills and achieve control over others—while most persons seek strength, the neurotic may be desperate for it.
  • 4. The need to exploit others; to get the better of them. To become manipulative, fostering the belief that people are there simply to be used.
  • 5. The need for social recognition; prestige and limelight.
  • 6. The need for personal admiration; for both inner and outer qualities—to be valued.
  • 7. The need for personal achievement; though virtually all persons wish to make achievements, as with No. 3, the neurotic may be desperate for achievement.

Moving Away from People

  • 8. The need for self sufficiency and independence; while most desire some autonomy, the neurotic may simply wish to discard other individuals entirely.
  • 9. The need for perfection; while many are driven to perfect their lives in the form of well being, the neurotic may display a fear of being slightly flawed.
  • 10. Lastly, the need to restrict life practices to within narrow borders; to live as inconspicuous a life as possible.

Online Therapy Catching On In Australia

Online Therapy Catching On In Australia | Gov Monitor:

Online therapy sessions could deliver help to thousands of Australians including women seeking help with domestic violence and country people whose self-reliance, heavy work schedule and geographic isolation rule out seeing a therapist face-to-face.

A review of technology use in therapy, counselling and dispute resolution by the Australian Institute of Family Studies has shown counselling in cyberspace holds “a great deal of promise”.

The Institute’s Elly Robinson says the increasing proliferation of online therapy sites offers an alternative source of help that may suit some clients with some types of problems.

“It’s astonishing that no more than a generation separates everyday users of computers, mobile phones and the internet from people for whom these tools are completely foreign,” Elly Robinson said.

“Yet there are signs that online therapy could be helpful for rural people, single parents at home, people dealing with issues of violence, or those who want anonymity and the privacy of accessing a service in the comfort of their own home,” she said.

Young people familiar with technology may be particularly suited to online therapy. However people over forty, more marginalised groups and the computer illiterate are less likely to be suited to online treatment.

The Four Universals

I was looking for stuff on the four universals of Moreno, but found this instead, bought it.

“Mind-bending. . . . [Greene] is both a gifted theoretical physicist and a graceful popularizer [with] virtuoso explanatory skills.” —The Oregonian “Brian Greene is the new Hawking, only better.” — The Times (London)

Greene, Brian. The Fabric of the Cosmos: Space, Time, and the Texture of Reality . Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.

Amazon.com: The Fabric of the Cosmos: Space, Time, and the Texture of Reality eBook: Brian Greene: Kindle Store:

The Fabric of the Cosmos: Space, Time, and the Texture of Reality (Kindle Edition) by Brian Greene (Author) 4.4 out of 5 stars See all reviews (238 customer reviews)

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NBB

Natural Born Blogger – a Dave Winer thing.

I have not been able to leave them alone since before there were blogs, just links pages. I was a user on Dave Winers “Edit this page”.  Now I have this one, Psyberspace and my art blog, and I assist and maintain a host of others.

Natural-born blogger. (Scripting News):

Not everyone was born to blog, but some people were.  Permalink to this paragraph

Pity the poor NBB who was born before there were blogs. You can imagine this person wandering the planet with some unspecified sense of purpose. Scratching his or her head, wondering what exactly it is they were supposed to do with their lives. Permalink to this paragraph

Of course that’s a joke, because this instinct had many ways to be satisfied before there were blogs, but it wasn’t as easy as it is for people today.  Permalink to this paragraph

Etsy

I am planning to have an Etsy shop in addition to my Felt shop, and to develop them both!

I have made a start on Etsy but will need to begin all over with a new email address, as I want a different  name for the shop.

There is a lot of work on these sites I like, and I see it now as one way for me to sell my prints.  I am planning … new pricing, new promotions, releasing series of prints one at a time?

Here is an example od an artist whose images I like on Etsy:

Crack In The Wall 16 x 16 inch acrylic on canvas by robinsart:

Crack In The Wall 16 x 16 inch acrylic on canvas

Crack In The Wall 16 x 16 inch acrylic on canvas
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Description

Title: Crack In The Wall

First in a series of abstract art whereby I have used historical reference for my inspiration.

16″ x 16″ x 1.5″

Golden acrylic paint on premium stretched canvas, finished with golden gloss varnish, black painted staple-free sides and mounting bracket in place … ready to hang!

Role Systems

I’m a Propegator and a Stabeliser (re posting a post below for the sake of posterity, in the fear the original may go before my copy.   And a Facilitator… actually all of the roles apply to me.  I am posting this to integrate it with the psychodramatic approach to roles.  I have also been listening to an audio:

Richard

A description of the IFS model from his website is pasted below.

Conceptual Framework for Online Identity Roles � emergent by design:

August 4, 2010

by Venessa Miemis

I just wrapped up a final project for an aesthetics course this semester, the assignment being to create a �Database of the Self.� I chose to make the database as a representation of the roles we play in terms of how we interact with information online. The roles are overlaid on a panarchy, which shows a visualization of adaptive lifecycles. Though the evolution of every idea or meme won�t necessarily follow this specific path, (it may in fact be rhizomatic, with multiple feedback loops), this begins to flesh out what we become as nodes within an enmeshed series of networks.

The cycle can be thought to begin with the �Activators,� in the lower right side of image.

For an interactive version of the graphic, click here. (Thanks to @gavinkeech for transforming my sketches into the web page). Scroll over the icons for descriptions and traits of each role to pop out. Roles also listed below.

I found this to be an interesting exercise when thinking about the impact and influence we have on the web, and how information travels. For instance, when you RT something on Twitter, you�re fulfilling a �Propagator� function, when you�re introducing people or bridging information you�re a �Connector,� when you�re developing a new theory or model or practice, you are a �Pathfinder,� and so on. It�s a different way of thinking about our relationship with information � one that puts more control in the hands of the user verses just drowning in �information overload.� It�s also an interesting way to think about who to send information to when trying to plant seeds of information and spread ideas.

Thanks to @wildcat2030 for inspiration from Friendships in Hyperconnectivity mindmap and to @gavinkeech for visual design.

Activators are the catalysts of transformational change, manifesting new ideas.

  • traits: evolutionary creativity, novelty, experimentation, innovation, freedom, divergence

Pathfinders give meaning to information, illuminating a new direction to pursue.

  • traits: clarity, vision, inspiration, foresight, intuition

Facilitators create conditions for information to flow smoothly.

  • traits: coordination, positioning, reconfiguration

Enhancers add perspective and insight to what is already known.

  • traits: growth, resonance, supplementation

Connectors bridge structural holes and forge new pathways between information.

  • traits: adaptation, learning, unification

Propagators build momentum and accelerate the spread of information.

  • traits: mobilization, persuasion, diffusion

Amplifiers direct attention and awareness to information of potential value.

  • traits: evaluation, recognition of opportunity/risk, discernment

Assimilators show how information is implemented.

  • traits: synthesis, integration

Stabilizers maintain equilibrium and balance.

  • traits: sustainability, conservation

Disruptors draw attention to chaos and uncertainty, highlighting the potential for new growth.

  • traits: dissonance, entropy, degradation

<cycle repeats>

Observers & Scribes

  • Archivists, Spectators, Analysts, Advocates, Critics

From the IFS website:

Overview | The Center for Self Leadership:

A BRIEF INTRODUCTION TO THE INTERNAL FAMILY SYSTEMSSM MODEL

The IFS Model views a person as containing an ecology of relatively discrete minds, each of which has valuable qualities and each of which is designed for, and wants to play a valuable role. (For the evolution of this theory and its relation to other theories of multiplicity, see below.) These minds, or parts, are forced out of their valuable roles, however, by life experiences that reorganize the system in unhealthy ways. A good analogy is an alcoholic family, in which the children are forced into protective and stereotypic roles (the scapegoat, mascot, lost child, and so on) by the extreme dynamics of their family. But these roles do not represent the essence of the children; on the contrary, once released from his or her role by intervention, each child can find interests and talents separate from the demands of the chaotic family. The same process seems to hold true for internal families — parts are forced into extreme roles by external circumstances, but they gladly transform into moderate, more functional roles once they see that the system can safely operate that way.

What circumstances force these parts into extreme and sometimes destructive roles? Trauma is one factor, but more often it is a person’s family of origin values and interactional patterns that create internal polarizations, which escalate over time and are played out in other relationships.  Object relations and self psychology have observed these processes. What is novel about IFS is its understanding of all levels of human organization — intrapsychic, family, and culture — through the same systemic principles, and its intervention at each level with the same ecological techniques.

Parts: Managers, Firefighters, and Exiles

Most clients have parts that try to keep them functional and safe — to maintain control of their inner and outer environments. They do this, for example, by keeping them from getting too close or dependent on others, by criticizing their appearance or their performance to make them look or act better, and by taking care of others’ needs rather than their own. These parts that are in protective, managerial roles are called managers. When a person has been severely or chronically hurt, humiliated, frightened, or shamed, certain parts carry emotions, memories, and sensations from those experiences. To keep these feelings out of consciousness, managers try to keep vulnerable, needy parts locked in inner closets. These incarcerated parts are known as exiles. Whenever one of the exiles is upset to the point that it floods the person or exposes him or her to being hurt again, the third group of parts rushes to douse the inner flames of feeling, earning them the name firefighters. Highly impulsive, they push for stimulation that will override or dissociate from the exile’s feelings. Bingeing on drugs, alcohol, food, sex, or work are common firefighter activities.

The Self

The aspect of the IFS Model that differentiates it most significantly from other models is the belief that, in addition to these parts, everyone is at their core a Self. The Self has leadership and healing qualities — perspective, confidence, compassion, and acceptance — crucial to our highest, most harmonious functioning. Even the most severely abused, symptomatic clients have this healthy and healing Self, although many have very little access to it initially. The goal of IFS therapy is to differentiate this Self from the parts, thereby freeing its resources for healing by helping parts out of their extreme roles and guiding them into harmonious collaboration.

Unlike other approaches to psychotherapy, IFS has as its goal leadership by the Self of the client�s internal system of parts, and, in families, groups, and organizations, Self-leadership within each member. In contrast to other forms of psychotherapy, the IFS therapist does not have to teach clients how to correct the thoughts and emotions picked up by parts through their experiences. When clients are led by their Selves, they know, through internal communication, how to help each inner personality, what those parts need in order to feel safe, and how they can release their burdens. Led by the qualities of the Self, clients know how to provide what the parts need. The therapist�s job is to guide clients to a Self-led state in which they become therapists to their own inner families.

In interpersonal relationships, when the therapist can help family members get their parts to step back and let their Selves communicate, long-standing issues are resolved with a minimum of guidance. Rather than reacting to each other’s extreme views and positions, each Self-led person, sensing the hurt behind the protective walls of other�s parts, automatically feels empathy, just as individual clients feel for their own parts. It is the Self�s compassionate understanding of the parts� pain and shame, as well as the Self�s availability to assist the parts again and again, that is healing.

You can learn more about the Internal Family Systems Model and how to work with it in the Level 1 course in Internal Family Systems. Books, articles, and DVDs/CDs about IFS are available through the CSL Store.