Following the client is the essence.
Letting go of all ideas about a solution to a problem.
The pattern of behaviour or situation what we draw attention to, not the particular behaviour.
The pattern is something that can be transformed at any instance of it. Status Nascendi is the most potent instance, but only if the person is ready to go, trust their pace.
The situation the client chooses to work on for that pattern is up to them, that is where we follow them, to that place where they are most ready to go.
This way the person is less likely to blame or place the experience onto another person.
And if they do…
“Focus on your experience, in this moment, your pain, your anger, your sense of injustice. Stay with that.”